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Today’s discussion has to do with home-wreckers and heart-wreckers. Speaking of home-wrecker, when your man cheats, who do women tend to blame? They blame the other woman for their own personal reasons. Women are less supportive of other women and the more envious gender, so this makes sense. I don’t see men running around blaming the other man as often as women do.
Here’s my INFJ take on it. The man is the one who made the vows. The man is the one who holds the loyalty. In society, there is a guy code but there is no such thing as a ‘girl code’. That other woman doesn’t owe you shit, especially knowing you’re probably over there blaming her more than you’re blaming your own dude. Also, your man should be able to dismiss temptation. Without meaning to, IF the other woman even knew about you (often times, they don’t), they’re doing you a favor. Now you know your man is a lying shady asshat. Disclaimer for the softies: This is an example. The roles could be reversed, duh.
When it comes to wedding vows, your general vow goes like so:
I blah blah blah take you yada yada yada to be my lawfully wedded so-and-so to have and to hold from this day forward, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.
Repeat after me: Crock. Of. Shit! Nobody follows these rules. If they do believe in God and made these vows to Him, these people are lying sacks of poo-poo. Very rarely is there for richer or for poorer. Richer, yea, but when the poorer part happens, shit hits the fan! In sickness and in health, sometimes. To love and cherish until death? Now, that’s is asking a lot. If you end up fighting all the time, yea, divorce. See the INFJ Discussion video entitled “The more you think about it….”
Ghosting. When it does come time for Splitsville, because, let’s face it, relationships very rarely last a lifetime, ghosting is not the answer. People do ghost others and sometimes we just get blown off and it’s not really ghosting. True ghosting is when both parties had something a little more meaningful than just ‘skin deep’. If you were in a serious relationship, ghosting is what dickheads do. If love was involved, to just bounce out without an explanation and closure is cruelty. That person will now take months, possibly years, healing after coming to their own conclusions. Especially if it’s found out you moved on so quickly after the ghosting, that cuts deep. You sit there with a sense of unspoken power that you’ve won. Truth is, you didn’t. Everybody who hears the story of how you ghosted will see you as the loser whether you want to believe it or not. A true man or woman can say their piece then move on with grace.
Child support. I’m a mom so for those moms who disagree with my take on it, F you too and learn to agree to disagree. In modern times, if I don’t use birth control and willingly have sex, I knowingly risk pregnancy. That’s on me. When I choose a partner and lay down with him unprotected, I made that choice. Unless he forced me, that’s on me. If a pregnancy results out of this union, two people went into this so two people need to make decisions on this new third human in the mix. Say one doesn’t want anything to do with it. Two people made the choice so who is to say the mother can chase down the father for child support? Child support, when pursued through the government, can literally ruin a life.
For the women who don’t know, that man can now be arrested out of the blue for a warrant he may not know about. The court determines what he should pay in child support based on his income. Say he has a low income or is in between incomes, what then? He still has to pay. If that man gets pulled over for speeding or gets shot and has to go to the ER, he’ll end up in cuffs because of the warrant. The way they all see it is he helped to create the life. This is true. But there were choices involved. It wasn’t 50/50 to lay down together- it was 100/100- 100% on her and 100% on him. You could’ve came to an agreement after a negotiation when it comes to the baby. If you two were so willing to get naked and exchange bodily fluids, why can’t you two exchange thoughts and honest feedback? Things wouldn’t have to get to court if both parties can say what they truly need to say without the other being vengeful or threatening. There needs to be understanding.
Sometimes in life things just suck. Sometimes we don’t have a say in that suckage. If I got knocked up and the dude didn’t want a kid, that should be okay. I understand the resentment the mother feels for carrying the full load but, again, she had choices. There was birth control before it got that far, and choices after pregnancy- one not so pleasant but, regardless, it was a choice. When I was 10, my bestie was a chick named Kara. We were talking about her dad one day. She mentioned how she missed him and didn’t hold it against him for calling, that she understood her mom would’ve grilled him or prevented him from calling had he done so for being behind on child support. When I asked her if it bothered her her father didn’t pay, her answer was “no, what if he can’t afford it?” To have that kind of acceptance and wisdom at 10 was inspiring. Her mindset has fared her well to this very day. She’s a successful woman with a happy home life and family.
This entire discussion boils down to knowing yourself thoroughly and, from there, making wise decisions on who to share your energy with. One night shouldn’t have to ruin your life or make it harder than it has to be. People can get along if they communicate. They can come to a happy medium if both parties are willing to accept responsibility and negotiate. Besides, you should be caring about who you’re dumping your load in. Loads are strong- they can burn your eye, make you gag or cause you to squeeze another human out of your pee-hole. Cum wisely.
Until next time. We’re doing a Storytime with Sadie 18+ on the podcast shortly so get your clams and sausages ready, as well as ranting about fake gurus and such in an upcoming episode about “empaths” here on Youtube.
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Just because that was kinda blah and depressing, here’s a fun snippet to make you giggle a little. Is it Japanese/Swedish? Is it Arabic/Polish with a little Aborigine thrown in there? Is it French/Korean? Hang out until the end 😉
The jibberish audio excerpt was literally just what I said from 7:29-7:46 played in reverse. Lol!